Carry The Fire

A 28-Day Grief Retreat

Heal Your Grief. Transcend Your Loss

A person dies two deaths: once when their body dies, and another when their story dies. Soul Centered is proud to offer you, “Creative Kaddish,” an ancient kabbalistic ritual which will inspire and empower you in becoming a guardian of your loved one’s story. It is our gift to you to help you get started on your journey of carrying your loved one’s fire.

Has your loved one died leaving you…

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Feeling lost, abandoned and confused?

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Longing for clarity and direction through your darkness?

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Yearning for comfort and calm amidst your grief storms?

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Seeking meaning and purpose within your loss?

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Searching for a pathway to move forward in your life?

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Ready to nurture your body, tend to your heart & care for your soul?

No matter where you are on the journey through grief, whether it’s been a week, a year, or a decade, you will never move on from your grief. However, you can move forward through it…

Discovering deeper meaning in your life…

Realizing a greater purpose for your life…

Living more fully…

Loving more fiercely…

Leaving behind the darkness and transcending your loss as you learn to carry your loved one’s fire, forward!

“A person dies two deaths: once when their body dies and another when their story dies. Although there is nothing we can do about physical death. We are the guardians of their story. We can defy death. We do this when we Carry The Fire.”  -Rabbi Dr. Baruch HaLevi

When Our Loved One Dies

The Kabalists (Jewish mystics) teach that our life is comparable to a candle and a flame. 

The candle is the body. It is of this world, here for a short time, and dies within this world.

The flame, however, is the spirit. It is in this world, but not of this world. It comes from somewhere beyond, and continues onwards long after the candle is gone.

Just as a flame can be transferred from one candle to the next, so too the spirit of our loved one’s continues on in so many ways.

When our loved one dies, we become a guardian of their flame. We carry their fire, sharing the light of their life and the warmth of their love through, in so many ways, defying death. 

As we love, their love continues to burn bright. As we live, their life continues to illuminate the way.

It is up to us to carry their fire forward…

Are you ready to Carry The Fire?

Defying Death

During the past few years I have lost more friends and family members than I care to count. On top of the heartache I have felt for each and everyone of them, I, like everyone else, have had to do so with the added suffering of the loneliness of quarantine during this time of COVID. In the past I might have turned to my synagogue or friends or even colleagues for support. However, that has not been an option, but thank goodness I found Baruch and Ariela in this truly transformational program they have created.

Not only did I get the comfort, clarity and support I needed from this program, I also received something far, far beyond what I ever imagined possible – I found an entirely new way of thinking about the devastating reality of death. I discovered that I am not powerless. I have a say, not over whether or not my loved one’s died physically, but whether or not they die a second death when their story dies.

I will not let their story die. I will live for them. I will guard their story. I will carry their fire. That is not only hopeful, but it’s a life purpose and with this purpose I will never be the same!!!

Tondy Daniels

Carrying His Friends' Fire

What Is Carry The Fire?

Carry The Fire is a 28 day multi-media grief program, or as we like to think of it, “a grief retreat.”

It will nurture you in healing through your grief, empower you in discovering purpose within your loss, and inspire you to transform your darkness into light. 

 It is for anyone, at any point after a loss.

One week, one month, one year, one decade…  

There is simply never a wrong time to mourn. 

It is never too late to grieve. 

Wherever you are on your journey, now is the perfect time to nurture yourself, heal your heart and begin to carry the fire. 

Meet Your Healer & Guide

We are Ariela and Baruch HaLevi, creators of Carry The Fire, and your Healer and Guide through the journey of grief. 

Carry The Fire is the culmination of forty years of our combined experience, guiding thousands of people through grief after the loss of a loved one. Equally, it is what each of us has personally discovered on our own, respective journeys through grief. Here’s what we know to be true:

  • You will heal, but first, you must face your loss and embrace your grief.
  • You can discover deeper meaning in your life and a greater purpose for your life when you consciously seek it within your loss.
  • You have the opportunity to move forward in your life, living more fully and loving more fiercely, when you learn to carry the fire!

We are here to help you heal through your grief and support you as you carry your loved one’s fire forward!

 

Baruch and Ariela are students of numerous religious, spiritual, healing and therapeutic traditions and schools. This program is comfortable for anyone of any religious tradition, or spiritual inclination, secular or Atheist.

Carry The Fire is simply the best practice from their studies, practice, professional and personal experience, distilled and synthesized into this elegant program.

Carry The Fire offers a holistic approach to grief, drawing upon numerous spiritual, religious, therapeutic and healing modalities, traditions and pathways, including:

Ancient Wisdom 

Drawing upon Kabbalah, Buddhism, Catholic mysticism, and Shamanism, you will be inspired by tried and true grief wisdom 

Spiritual & Healing Practices 

Engaging in a variety of spiritual practices including: kabbalistic rituals, mindfulness-meditation, yoga, and guided healing visualizations, you will discover healing from within yourself.

Therapeutic Guidance  

Grounded in Logotherapy (meaning-centered therapy created by Dr. Viktor Frankl, author of “Man’s Search For Meaning”) you will discover meaning in your loss and direction through your grief 

Self-Development Tools

Utilizing creative and practical techniques drawn from various wisdom traditions, ancient and modern, you will have the tools you need to make measurable and impactful changes in your life

 

“There is nothing in the world, I would venture to say, that would so effectively help one to survive even the worst conditions as the knowledge that there is a meaning in one’s life.”  -Dr. Viktor Fankl

Breathe. Breathe. Breathe.

This has been a trying year for me, having lost far too many friends. To make matters worse, during this time of COVID, I, like so many others, was not able to attend the funerals, pay my respects or formally grieve. That is why the Carry The Fire Grief Retreat has been so invaluable to me, and I’m sure to countless others as well.

It doesn’t matter where you are, what’s going on in the outside world, or whom you are with, or not with, you can simply turn on your computer, tune into this program, and tap into the treasure trove of healing experiences and inspirational guidance that is packed into every day. Some days I need to journal. Other days I just like to sit and experience the calm of the guided meditations. Some days I simply watch the video and it is enough for me to get grounded, get centered and remember my friends.

I recommend this program highly to anyone who wants to take some time, to formally remember, and finally grieve. 

Jan Goldstein

Carrying Her Friends Fire

Here’s How Carry The Fire Works…

Carry The Fire is designed to be an immersive experience, utilized over the course of 28 days. 

Each day contains insightful and inspirational reading and videos, expanded through daily assignments, spiritual healing practices, and practical tools to use throughout your day.

These engaging, guided activities can be completed in as little as 30 minutes. 

Daily Grief Retreat Activities Include…

Sparks In The Dark:

Excerpts from “Sparks Seekers: Mourning with Meaning; Living with Light,” Baruch’s book

Write Through Grief:

Writing exercises to gently guide you in exploring grief and expressing your feelings

Breathe Through Grief:

Breathing exercises, guided meditations and visualizations to help you heal 

Move Through Grief:

Activities to engage your body, such as gentle yoga and walking to help you move through your grief 

Respond Through Grief:

Numerous activities to incorporate into your day to help learn how to respond to your grief 

Calm. Comfort. Clarity.

Lost. Overwhelmed. Confused. Shattered. This is how I felt after I lost a loved one. I didn’t know which way to go or how to proceed in my life. I simply was stuck, knew I needed guidance, but was not ready for a heavy lift, a long term commitment or complicated program. That’s when I found Baruch and Carry The Fire.

This program is concise, straightforward, inspirational and impactful. Over the course of 28 days I received inspiration, gained practical tools, and felt like I not only had a pathway forward, but a companion to help me get there. During this time I learned how to stop avoiding my painful emotions, to face them and feel them as a starting point. I also gained a whole new perspective on the opportunities waiting to be discovered in crisis and suffering, and have begun to find deeper meaning and greater purpose because of it.

If I could turn back time and have my loved ones back, I would. However, that isn’t a choice, and instead of staying stuck, I choose to move forward. Thanks to Carry The Fire, that’s exactly what I’m doing and you will too!

Connie O'connor

Carrying Her Loved One's Fire

You’ll get immediate access to the program after you complete your purchase.

The Mystical Meaning of 28

The inspiration behind 28 days comes from the ancient, kabbalistic practice of immersing oneself within their grief during the first month after the death of a loved one. Spiritually, the lunar month (28 days) symbolizes a time of transformation. After all, every month the moon is “born,” “dies” and is re-born, again and again.

The moon is tied to the menstrual cycle, also a journey of life, death and rebirth. It is responsible for the tide and rhythm of the waves, much like grief, ebbing and flowing, pulsating one day and calm the next.

On so many levels, we make this journey, waning and waxing through darkness and light, ebbing and flowing through our grief, and 28 days symbolizes both our recognition of and commitment to this profound journey.

Lastly, in Kabbalah 28 is numerologically tied to the Hebrew word for strength. When we are weary, we need to rest. When we are broken, we need to heal. When our loved one dies, we need both rest and healing. Carry The Fire is designed to help you regain your mental, emotional and spiritual strength.

Soul Soothing Amidst The Grief Storm

When my mom died tragically I didn’t know what to do or where to go. Thankfully I found my way to Soul Centered, and through a combination of Ariela’s healing and Baruch’s guidance, I not only survived those initial, turbulent soul storm’s, but have discovered so much meaning, purpose and blessing along the way. With this addition the Carry The Fire Grief Retreat, I now have so many of those tools and teachings at my fingertips and turn to them daily to help me continue my journey through grief, find comfort during the lonely nights of sorrow, and a truly soul soothing refuge when the storms descend now and again. 

Samantha Rose

Carrying Her Mother's Fire

The 28-Day Journey You Will Make

The Carry The Fire Grief Retreat is designed in 9 units, each unit methodically walking you through the darkness of grief, carrying you forward back to life and into your light.

Unit 1. Darkness Descends

Death is the one thing we are all guaranteed, and ironically, the very thing that always takes us by surprise. When it descends and claims someone we love, we feel overwhelmed and confused, shattered and lost. We need to give ourselves permission to wander aimlessly through the landscape of grief, and remind ourselves that during this horrible time, survival is enough. 

Unit 2. Facing the Dark

Contrary to what our parents told us, monsters do exist, and when we are grieving they haunt us in far more subtle ways than we imagined as children. However, just like when we were children, the only way to dispel them is to acknowledge them, confront them and take back our power from the shadows where they hide. As we do, we grow in power, realizing that the darkness is not as scary as it seemed, and we can and will find our way through it with courage, conviction and resolve.

Unit 3. Embracing The Dark 

When you face the darkness and give yourself time to wander through it, eventually your senses adjust and you begin to gain clarity. As you do, you begin to see that all emotions have their place, even the dark emotions. Anger, depression, anxiety and despair, are not our enemies to be avoided or ignored. Rather, they all serve a purpose, providing you a pathway into discovering meaning in your loss and life.

Unit 4. Descending Up

There is no way around grief. You must go down into it as the pathway through it. As you descend into the dark night of the soul, instead of terror, what you will eventually discover is liberation, no longer bound by your doubts and fears about what resides down in the darkness. Liberating yourself from your fears will unleash within you a deep reservoir of strength and the defiant power of your spirit. The path downward is actually an ascent upward and the way back to the light and your life. 

Unit 5. Spark Seekers

The death of a loved one is best described as a shattering. It feels as if there is nothing left, only fragments and shards strewn all over your life. The mystics teach, however, that all shatterings bring with them openings, possibilities, and new beginnings. Or in Kabbalah referred to as sparks. To discover the light you must first choose to become a spark seeker – choose to discover sparks of light, love and life waiting to be discovered by you within the dark.  

Unit 6. Wholehearted 

There is within every one of us a deep yearning to see what we are made of, to know that we are capable of when life throws us into the arena. Will we crumble? Will it shatter us? Or will it provide us the opportunity to rise up out of the ashes, to ascend beyond our circumstances, feel more deeply, live more fully, and become more whole because of, not in spite of, our broken heart.

Unit 7: Transcendent Love 

The journey of grief is all about us, our brokenness, and our suffering, at least at first. However, in order to move through the darkness, there comes a point when we must transcend it through seeing and serving others. To carry the fire we must rise up in love: love for our dead, for our living, and for those yet to be born. Love is the way through the darkness, and as we love we illuminate the darkness for ourselves, for others and for those who will follow in our footsteps. 

Unit 8. Carry the Fire

From the time we are toddlers, we long to be picked up and carried. As we grow older, this only changes form, but it never changes. It is our deepest need that our loved ones will remember us when we are dead, and carry on our memory after we are gone. We are here to carry the fire, and as we carry our loved one’s fire, in so many ways we defy death. 

Unit 9: illuminating The Path 

To be visited by death’s darkness is not a choice, however, that doesn’t mean we are without choice. As we learn to carry the fire, we understand that we have many choices to make. We can choose to defy death through keeping our loved one’s story alive. We can choose not merely to survive, but to thrive after our loss as we learn to live more fully and fiercely, because of their death, and in honor of their life. And we can choose to carry forward their example, as we continue their legacy and illuminate the path for those who follow in their footsteps and our own.

Results You Can Expect…

HOPE

Anyone who has lost a loved one knows that when the darkness descends, hope dies with our loved one. When you learn to Carry The Fire you will reclaim a sense of certainty in your life, faith that your journey has meaning, and hope that light will one day return to your life. 

    CLARITY

    When death’s darkness descends we feel overwhelmed, confused and lost by our loss. When you learn to Carry The Fire you will regain a sense of clarity of where to place your foot to take the next step; step by step you will slowly and clearly walk your way back into your life. 

      HEALING

      As we descend into death’s darkness, we are shattered in so many ways. Body, mind, emotion and spirit are broken, and we are in deep need of healing. When you learn to Carry The Fire you will cultivate the tools you need to begin to feel your grief, process your emotions and move through your darkness. As you feel, you heal and eventually you will heal aspects of your life. 

        EMPOWERMENT

        Death strips us not only of our loved one, but of our feeling of control, competence and power. When you learn to Carry The Fire you begin to steadily and increasingly take back your power – reclaiming the power of your choice to live more fully and love more fiercely as you move forward in your life. 

          PURPOSE

          When we are lost within our loss, we don’t know what to do or which way to go. When we learn to Carry The Fire, we discover that within our loss there is so much to be found. Finding the light within the darkness and sharing it with the world becomes a source of motivation which carries us forward with purpose and inspiration. 

            INSPIRATION

            When our loved one dies, we literally lose our breath, and figuratively lose our spirit. When we learn to Carry The Fire, we take back our ability to breathe (respire), return to our spirit and move forward in-spirit; inspired and breathing easier with our loved one in our heart and by our side. 

              Carry The Fire will not magically make your suffering go away. 

              However, in the words of Dr. Viktor Frankl, “In some ways suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning.”

              What this program can do is offer you the opportunity to discover deeper meaning, realize a greater purpose, and experience profound inspiration within the depths of your darkness after the death of your loved one. 

              There are sparks waiting to be discovered in the dark. Together we will find them, fan them into a flame and that flame into a fire as you learn to carry the fire, not in spite of your loss, because of it. You Carry The Fire for your loved one, for yourself, for the living and for those who are waiting for you, watching you and learning from you. One day they will walk in your footsteps, carry your fire as they pass the fire down from generation to generation.

              You’ll get immediate access to the program after you complete your purchase.

              Nurturing & Healing Years Later

              I love this program! It’s healing. It’s spiritual. It’s practical! And it’s exactly what I needed after my dad died. Life was so busy. Being a professional, wife and mother, there where so many demands made upon me that I just didn’t make the time to grieve as I wanted and needed. However, years later, doing this program and exploring my grief over 28 days (less than an hour a day) has been so nurturing and healing. It’s exactly what I needed and why I recommend it to my clients, my friends and anyone I know who needs a grief retreat!

              Rebecca Rosen

              Carrying Her Dad's Fire

              FAQ’s

              Exactly How Does The Program Work?

              When you register for the Carry The Fire 28-Day Grief Retreat you will receive an Introductory email with a welcome and instructional video, along with your first day’s activity. The next day you will receive your first unit, consisting of all the material you will need for three days. Thereafter you’ll receive a new unit packet of videos and assignments every three days (9 units in total). Each day consists of an introductory video and various assignments to support you on your journey through grief. 

              Does Carry The Fire Have To Be Completed Over 28 Days?

              There are very few absolutes when it comes to grief, and certainly there is no one-size-fits-all time frame (as you will explore in the program). It is your grief. It is your journey. It is your time frame. Carry The Fire is a program to nurture and support you through your grief, and you can certainly extend this program, engaging it every two or three days over the course of two or three months. However, it is our experience that containing it within a 28 day period is most impactful, even if it means doing less each day. 

              Do I have to do all of the day’s activities?

              After a loss, the last thing you need is another obligation or burden. Carry The Fire should certainly not be one of them. Indeed, there are multiple options for you to engage on any given day, however, they should be thought of not as “have-to’s,” rather, they are “get-to’s.” You get to do what you want, whichever speaks to you that day. Maybe you watch the video and reflect upon that day’s theme and call it a day. Perhaps you choose to follow the journaling prompts, or just want to be guided in a healing meditation.Think of it as a “choose your own adventure.” This program provides you choices, so choose whatever you feel will bring you the guidance you need and comfort you deserve!

              Can I Break The Day’s Activities Up?

              Carry The Fire can be engaged in one sitting or divided up during the course of the day. Some people choose to watch that day’s video in the morning and to engage the activities in the evening. Others have shared they like to watch the video and journal in the morning, while doing the meditations or other bonus activities upon returning from work, or after the kids are in bed. Some have shared they save the bonus activities, such as yoga, for the weekends. There is simply no right way, or wrong way to grieve. All that matters is you do in whatever way works for you. 

              Can I do this with a friend, or in a small group?

              Yes! Carry The Fire is perfectly suited to be done with a friend, partner or family member. It is crucial we feel supported and have a sense of connection when going through grief. The more support we have the better. Having someone engage this program and do this work with us can be deeply meaningful. 

              Soul Centered offers periodic, small group experiences, as well as providing small group opportunities to organizations such as: hospice, churches, synagogues, grief centers, funeral homes, family and social welfare organizations, and many more. 

              If you are interested in participating in a Soul Centered small group, or engaging Soul Centered to provide a group experience to your constituents, please contact us at: info@mysoulcentered.org

              What happens after I purchase Carry The Fire?

              Upon purchasing Carry The Fire you will be redirected to a third-party site called, “Thinkific,” where you will have to sign up for a new account (if you don’t have one already). This simply requires choosing a username and password, at which point you will have immediate access to all 28 days of the program. Again, you can choose to do the program at your own pace, however, you will also receive emails every three days (9 units) to support you, offer you some bonus insights and inspire you along your journey. 

              What is the refund policy?

              Please note, all purchases are final. We are always available and willing to address any questions, thoughts or concerns you may have about this program or any of our Soul Centered offerings.

              Is this program in lieu of professional medical support or clinical counseling?

              We are not, nor are we holding ourselves out to be a doctor/physician, nurse, physician’s assistant, or any other medical professional (“Medical Provider”). Before participating in this program, or any other of our programs, we recommend that you consult with a physician or other Medical and Mental Health Provider if you have any concerns or questions about your physical or mental health. 

              Are the results described on the website guaranteed?

              Although we have seen this program provide direction, support and guidance for participants, the results described on this site are in no way a guarantee. Every person is unique, and every grief journey is specific to that person alone. There are no guarantees as to the specific outcome or results you can expect from using this program.   

              A person dies two deaths: once when their body dies, and another when their story dies.

              Soul Centered is proud to offer you, “Creative Kaddish,” an ancient kabbalistic ritual which will inspire and empower you in becoming a guardian of your loved one’s story.