ARE YOU STANDING AT THE CRISIS CROSSROADS OF LIFE…
Suffering a shattered heart amidst one of the many losses life presents to us?
Struggling within the loneliness and uncertainty of your marriage?
Longing for deeper intimacy in your relationships?
Enduring the overwhelm of a divorce, and the uncertainty of rebuilding your life?
Seeking deeper meaning and definite direction amidst a midlife crisis?
Feeling burnt out in your profession and longing to live your true calling?
Facing the unknown of the empty nest, the uncertainty of who you are, unable to imagine who you will become?
Trying to reinvent yourself in retirement, yearning for re-inspirement?
Tired of merely surviving, ready to move forward in your life as you learn to thrive, not in spite of the Crisis Crossroads, rather, because of it?
If you answered yes to any one of these, then you are at, The Crisis Crossroads or one of many of Life’s T’s: Transitions, Tests, Trials, Traumas or Tragedies.
Crisis comes from the Greek word meaning, “decision,” and when you arrive at one of these crossroads, you have a decision to make.
Will you react or respond?
One is conscious, the other unconscious. One will carry you forward in your life; the other will result in feeling stuck on our journey, leaving you stifled on your path. But make no mistake about it, it comes down to a decision.
The problem is that when we come to the Crisis Crossroads, our instincts kick in, and we have one thing on our mind: survive, survive, survive. We don’t decide, don’t make a choice. Instead of responding to our life, we allow the crossroads to determine our reaction, and it usually looks something like this:
Reacting is understandable. The crossroads are overwhelming, even terrifying, and fight, freeze or flight is how we have survived as a species for thousands of years. It is also how you have survived and protected yourself throughout the Morning of Life.
However, in the words of Carl Jung:
“But we cannot live the afternoon of life according to the program of life’s morning, for what was great in the morning will be little at evening and what in the morning was true, at evening will have become a lie.”
When we enter the second half of our life, if we want to truly live, then we need to accept that our Morning of Life survival skills and tactics are not enough. We long for more, and in the Afternoon of Life we need to stop reacting to the crossroads, and start responding to our life.
That is the choice, and this is what Choose Your Own Way is all about.
Nurturing & Healing Years Later
I love this program! It’s healing. It’s spiritual. It’s practical! And it’s exactly what I needed after my dad died. Life was so busy. Being a professional, wife and mother, there where so many demands made upon me that I just didn’t make the time to grieve as I wanted and needed. However, years later, doing this program and exploring my grief over 28 days (less than an hour a day) has been so nurturing and healing. It’s exactly what I needed and why I recommend it to my clients, my friends and anyone I know who needs a grief retreat.
No matter who you are…
No matter what you are facing…
No matter how uncertain, overwhelming, or insurmountable your crossroads may seem…
You have a choice. You always have a choice.
In the words of my mentor, Dr. Viktor Frankl, Holocaust survivor, founder of Logotherapy, and author of Man’s Search For Meaning:
This is the last of the human freedoms: to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.
It comes down to your choice!
You can choose to face your crossroads and find deeper meaning.
You can choose to embrace your crossroads as a pathway to a greater purpose.
You can choose to stop reacting and start responding…
- To the crossroads
- To your circumstances
- To your life
This is the opportunity being presented to you at your crossroads. This your choice.
It’s time to Choose Your Own Way!
Breathe. Breathe. Breathe.
This has been a trying year for me, having lost far too many friends. To make matters worse, during this time of COVID, I, like so many others, was not able to attend the funerals, pay my respects or formally grieve. That is why the Carry The Fire Grief Retreat has been so invaluable to me, and I’m sure to countless others as well. It doesn’t matter where you are, what’s going on in the outside world, or whom you are with, or not with, you can simply turn on your computer, tune into this program, and tap into the treasure trove of healing experiences and inspirational guidance that is packed into every day. Some days I need to journal. Other days I just like to sit and experience the calm of the guided meditations. Some days I simply watch the video and it is enough for me to get grounded, get centered and remember my friends. I recommend this program highly to anyone who wants to take some time, to formally remember, and finally grieve.
Welcome To Choose Your Own Way
I’m Baruch HaLevi, creator of the Choose Your Own Way program and your Guide through The Afternoon of Life.
I have guided thousands of people through every type of Crisis Crossroads, and all of Life’s T’s in the Afternoon of Life. I have also navigated many of them myself. This program is a response to these experiences, what my client’s needed at their crossroads, and what I wish I had access to when facing my own.
Choose Your Own Way synthesizes my passions and expertise in the areas of: Logotherapy (meaning-centered psychotherapy founded by Dr. Viktor Frankl), Kabbalah (Jewish mysticism), the Enneagram (an ancient personality instrument and energy assessment tool) Eastern Meditation, and Mindfulness Practice & Motivational Coaching Tools. It is simply the best principles and practices I have discovered along my way, and I am proud to be able to offer them to you in this clear, concise and impactful program.
Here are the types of exercises you’ll explore to empower you in choosing your own way…
During this past year I have lost more friends and family members than I care to count. On top of the heartache I have felt for each and everyone of them, I, like everyone else, have had to do so with the added suffering of the loneliness of quarantine during this time of COVID. In the past I might have turned to my synagogue or friends or even colleagues for support. However, that has not been an option, but thank goodness I found Baruch and Ariela in this truly transformational program they have created. Not only did I get the comfort, clarity and support I needed from this program, I also received something far, far beyond what I ever imagined possible – I found an entirely new way of thinking about the devastating reality of death. I discovered that I am not powerless. I have a say, not over whether or not my loved one’s died physically, but whether or not they die a second death when their story dies. I will not let their story die. I will live for them. I will guard their story. I will carry their fire. That is not only hopeful, but it’s a life purpose and with this purpose I will never be the same!!!
Here’s How Choose Your Own Way Works
The Choose Your Own Way program is a 21-day multimedia program, broken down into 5 clear steps, each delivered straight to your email inbox.
Every fourth day you will receive one of the steps’ respective materials consisting of an introductory video for that particular step, together with three shorter videos, each with an optional exercise to help you experience and integrate the material. All of these videos are short, sweet, and to the point, providing you the necessary insights and tools to begin to find your way forward through whatever crossroads you are facing.
Soul Soothing Amidst The Grief Storm
When my mom died tragically I didn’t know what to do or where to go. Thankfully I found my way to Soul Centered, and through a combination of Ariela’s healing and Baruch’s guidance, I not only survived those initial, turbulent soul storm’s, but have discovered so much meaning, purpose and blessing along the way. With this addition the Carry The Fire Grief Retreat, I now have so many of those tools and teachings at my fingertips and turn to them daily to help me continue my journey through grief, find comfort during the lonely nights of sorrow, and a truly soul soothing refuge when the storms descend now and again.
Here are the 5 steps and what you will explore and experience in each…
Step 1: Choose To Make Your Stand
In this first step you will make the choice to do this work, move forward in your life, and resolve to see it through. Upon completing this step you can expect…
- To feel calm and centered, gaining new tools to help you return to your center whenever you feel overwhelmed, uncertain or in despair
- To have a renewed sense of hope that you are not alone, not selfish for doing this work, and that there is a pathway forward for you to discover meaning and live your purpose
- To have a deeper understanding of who you are and how you show up through utilizing the Enneagram and mindfulness practice
Step 2: Choose To Feel Your Crossroads
In this second step, you will get honest about what you are facing and feeling, allowing yourself to be authentic and real. Upon completing this step you can expect…
- To experience a sense of relief that only comes when you are honest about your emotions and real about how you feel
- To be done with feeling guilt, regret, or shame about who you are, what you have or haven’t done, and where you are or are not in your life
- To feel energized and inspired as you learn to harness your thoughts and emotions in service of your journey, taking you in the direction of your dreams and desires
Step 3: Choose The True You
In this step, you will go inwards and remember who you are, what you are made of and the truth that was, is, and will always be you. Upon completing this step you can expect…
- To feel a sense of certainty and conviction that comes when you remember the truth about who you are and what you are – learning to let go of your false self and live your True Self
- To experience a sense of relief and completion that comes when you realize – you have enough, you are enough and everything you need is inside of you
- To feel the liberation that comes when you stop living by old goals, rules and other people’s expectations, coming out to the world as the authentic, True You
Step 4: Choose To Transcend Your Self
In this step you will transcend yourself through remembering what motivates you, whom you serve and why you are here. Upon completing this step you can expect…
- To feel the connection and motivation that comes when you deepen your relationships, honor your commitments and transform your responsibilities into your response-ability
- To experience the awe that comes when you transcend your self, realizing your service to the world is the pathway to living Your Soul Purpose
- To finally feel the joy and love that comes when we not only serve through giving but equally through receiving others fully and completely
Step 5: Choose To Own Your Power
In this fifth and final step, you will learn to take back your power from whatever crossroads you are facing, circumstances you are surviving, or however powerless you might feel in the Afternoon of Life. Upon completing this step you can expect…
- To feel empowered as you take back the reins of your life; stop reacting and start responding to your life
- To experience the freedom that comes when we no longer live in reaction, no longer feel like victims of circumstance
- To live more fully and fiercely as you own your authentic power – the power to choose your own path, your own destiny, your own way!
Lost. Overwhelmed. Confused. Shattered. This is how I felt after I lost a loved one. I didn’t know which way to go or how to proceed in my life. I simply was stuck, knew I needed guidance, but was not ready for a heavy lift, a long term commitment or complicated program. That’s when I found Baruch and Carry The Fire. This program is concise, straightforward, inspirational and impactful. Over the course of 28 days I received inspiration, gained practical tools, and felt like I not only had a pathway forward, but a companion to help me get there. During this time I learned how to stop avoiding my painful emotions, to face them and feel them as a starting point. I also gained a whole new perspective on the opportunities waiting to be discovered in crisis and suffering, and have begun to find deeper meaning and greater purpose because of it. If I could turn back time and have my loved ones back, I would. However, that isn’t a choice, and instead of staying stuck, I choose to move forward. Thanks to Carry The Fire, that’s exactly what I’m doing and you will too!
Get Started & Choose Your Own Way…
This program has been distilled over twenty years, culled from the experience of thousands of individuals navigating their own journey, and utilized in my own life, time and again. Although there are no shortcuts or sure things to get you through the wilderness, you are not alone, and certainly not without a compass. This program will be your companion at whatever crossroads you are facing and within you is the compass you need to find your way through. It’s time to discover it, follow it, and live it.
May you discover deeper meaning, authentic purpose and your true self on the journey through your wilderness.
Now, let’s get going. It’s time to choose your own way!
Dr. Baruch HaLevi
Co-Founder of Soul Centered & Your Guide Through The Afternoon of Life